Many people speak of how they are not satisfied with their jobs, others of how they would like to work at their dream job and there are those who complain about their boss, and work environment always with negativity.

Complaining of everything around us has become a habit in the life of many people. Even worse, they want to be understood by making of themselves victims!

HR experts say that when a person complains, 80% of who hear them don’t care. And 20% of those who listen arre happy to know that someone is worse off than them. Yes, it’s true! This is why it’s a fact that well off and successful people do not want to be around such “poor victims”.

Large companies are increasingly seeking for qualified and experienced professionals. However, this is not enough, they seek for dedicated professionals, who wear the uniform and that are always willing to add on to the organization.

You need to plan your goals and put them into action. An excellent professional, does not only fulfill the role for which she was hired. On the contrary, she always goes beyond what she was assigned to. She seeks to always do the best for the organization, for the company. How about you? How have you performed your tasks? Strongly and with initiative? Or do you simply do what they ask you?

What have you done to be a great professional? The kind who does more and better than what she was told. Where is your excellence? For those who think this way, there is no unemployment in their vocabulary! Perhaps you are starting off  your career at the bottom. But your initiative and fulfillment will make you rise, it will only be a matter of time. This profile allied with an excellent character, is the secret of your success!

Godllywood Media Team

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Few people understand that eating well today is the ticket to a healthy tomorrow, far from diseases. Feeling good, having energy and vitality, starts on the plate. The opposite is also true because an allergy, stomachaches, illnesses and so on also begin with the food we eat.

We have the conditions to eat quality foods without spending much. Here are some tips:

• Leave aside the traditional desserts that are full of sugars. Instead feel the taste of the sugar in the seasonal fruits that are healthy and much more affordable.

• Have you ever thought of how much you can save by growing your own garden? When we buy spices and herbs at the farmers market or in a supermarket, we often do not use up the amount we buy. However, if you could pick them from your garden, you will get only what’s needed and could still use the remaining herbs next week.

• Many people spend in buying meals and pizzas at night. These famous junk foods do not only make you feel guilty at the scale, they can increase the levels of sugar and fats in your blood, bring you serious long-term consequences. Change this bad habit for a vegetable soup or a nutritional broth. You can find many delicious recipes in the Internet.

• How about when hunger hits in the afternoon, instead of the heavy sandwich and the fried snacks you drink a shake or a natural fruit juice? You may not believe it but it will nourish you and give you the energy you need until the next meal.

It is the little changes of habits that will make big differences in your future!

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Part I – About Communication

Women by nature are different from men in their external anatomical characteristics, sexual characteristics, and in their way of thinking and acting.

One of the most interesting differences is in the way the brain of men and women process language, information, emotions, knowledge and etc.

Women are more attentive in their personal relationships, they communicate better, and their skill in this aspect has already been scientifically proven. They are peacemakers, they love to be in tune with each other, be affectionate and loving. They know how to appreciate; they are better at detailed tasks, among many other aspects that stand out.

However, some women use these qualities in a negative way. They use their communication skills to hurt others, to gossip, they speak beyond what they should and with a wrong word they can destroy those around them.

Set some time aside for yourself and reflect. How have you used your communication skills?

Have you used this skill negatively or positively?

What can you do to improve this?

We can start off by not doing what we normally do since it doesn’t workout…the annoying complaints that make the husband want to walk into the television, the frown face that makes him become even more distant, and the expectation that he will guess the problem, are some examples.

So what to do? Cry, throw a fit, threaten to divorce? All of that only distance him more and more. Men are very different from women in the way they react. If the husband complains of something that his wife did or didn’t do, she will “normally” do everything to correct herself – the majority of women don’t like to see their husbands unhappy. However, men don’t react the same way. The more women complain, the more deaf they become to their complaints. They simply unplug.

If the husband is with a frown face or quiet, the wife is on top of the situation… ‘Did I do something wrong?’ ‘What’s the problem?’ or ‘Do you want me to do something for you?’ She will try to guess the problem until she gets it right. However, men don’t… he sees his wife with a frown face and he quickly wants to avoid arguments. If she is quiet, he thinks: ‘It is not a good time to talk!’

Honestly no man likes to deal with those kinds of problems. If he can get away from it, he will.

If you want to solve the problem, do your husbands will and soon he will do yours. Sacrifice has always been and will always be the secret to a happy marriage. Of course, he will not change over night. You need to be perseverant in this for a good period of time; no one said marriage was easy! Here goes one of my little secrets: I changed first and after, way after, he changed. Do you know what is more awesome? That my change was also very good for my being, thank you!

Don’t give in to the difficulties; the results are worth the sacrifice.

How many of us have not gone through this situation…

But what is disappointment? – It is the feeling of disgust, dismay or the sensation of displeasure.

Us woman many times have high expectations in our relationships and even in our friendships. There are all kinds out there, the fake, the self-serving, the convenient and ect…This is why we are here to give you some advice on how to be a good friend and how to find someone with whom you will have less chances of being disappointed.

1^st Advice: Don’t expect the other person to have only you as a friend. This one goes for those who are very attached. They are the kind of people whose friends need to be only theirs. They are generally people that live in function of a friend, and they don’t know how to go about their daily routine without having the other one-give suggestions of what she should do. They are dependent friends, and such people will always be disappointed because they expect too much, of something that isn’t real nor healthy in a relationship.

2^nd Advice: Seek to know very well your new friend before you run off telling her your entire life. This is fundamental for a new friendship, to avoid generating future disappointments. Opening up about our lives to someone we hardly know can be a risk. You probably had this experience once and know what happens, right? When you least expected it, all of your other friends or close acquaintances already know it all. Something that you had just shared with that “friend” who has now just turned into a nightmare.

3^rd Advice: Be sincere. This one is to close of with a golden key. A friendship where there is no sincerity is not worth continuing. Be sincere, cultivate it in a way that you aren’t the only one who receives, but that also gives. Friends aren’t for gossiping, or for talking about others. A friendship is a way of sharing, learning and admiring the qualities of others. This will certainly help us in our growth as a person.

The Long Bob is a new and practical hair cut that has the length below the shoulder, but it also has a shorter version.

The best thing of all is that it goes well with all face shapes, even round ones. Other than leaving your appearance more modern, it is ideal for those who what a hairstyle that doesn’t take up much of our time.

If you have a full and round face, you can use this hair cut, but be careful to not leave your locks very slick and don’t divide it from the center. It goes very well with an oval shape face.

There are also many ways to style it, there are some variations:

• Straight – other that giving you a sophisticated look it is also classic. For this look you just need to brush it, and if you would like flat iron it, and apply a leave-in cream on the tips.
• “Relax” – Apply products specifically for this use, or create it with a Baby Liss, curling iron, or flat iron.

Did you like it? Its an opportunity for a makeover!

The novels are always like this: the young woman begins her story suffering, being humiliated and mistreated by a “villan”, but at the end she finds a prince charming and lives happily ever after.

Reality isn’t quite this way. A prince charming just isn’t enough to reach the happy ending you desire.

You need to make the right choices. Decide to move on, leave behind painful memories that only do you harm.

The Rahab Project has individual assistant to help you in this process, along with monthly gatherings to help you overcome the past. Choose to advance to rewrite a new story for your life. Your happy ending depends on your actions.

We from the Rahab Project can help you.

Here is the link with the addresses of the Rahab Project.

If you are in seek of a good job, firstly, you need to be conscious that there are thousands of people competing with you, seeking a spot in the working market. For this reason, a good curriculum and proven experience are not enough to guarantee you success. What is the point in having all the necessary requirements, if the person can’t express herself or behave at the time of the job interview?

Thinking of you, we will leave some advice on how to behave and manage to give a good impression in such situation:

• Stay calm! We know that this can be very hard, however; this moment is jut so that the interviewer can get to know you better. Nervous people tend to talk a lot, sweat, make many gestures and sometimes-even stutter. This certainly isn’t the impression that you want to pass.
• Don’t interrupt the interviewer! Allow him to interview you without interruptions. If you would like to ask questions or question the position, do it after the interview. In addition to seeing your well manners, he will notice your sensibility.
• Go out on your personal appearance! You can bet in a basic and light makeup. Use eye shadows, blush, and lipstick in neutral colors. Your hair needs to be clean and well combed. It doesn’t matter if they are loose or tied; just don’t use very attention calling accessories. Your nails need to be impeccable, since our hands are always visible. Dress in a discreet manner, in other words, elegantly. Don’t use accessories that call more attention than yourself.
• Have a good posture! Never present yourself with your head down, and when you shake hands don’t do it lightly. Smile, show them who you are, that you are willing to contribute in that company. Always look into the interviewers eyes and pass on certainty.

Accordingly to the HR manager of Catho, Angelica Noguira, there are some things that SHOULDN’T be done at the time of the job interview:

• Answer your cellphone during the interview;
• Make many gestures;
• Constantly changing sitting positions on the chair and moving your hands and legs nonstop;
• Speak or laugh in a high tone;
• Crossing your arms or with your body leaned back;
• Arrive late;
• Speak negatively of previous employers;
• Lie about professional experiences and knowledge.

Remember to behave this way and you will be more confident at your next job interview!

If you’re like most women I know, it probably takes you much time trying to find the perfect outfit in the morning. And after you do, you probably think it’s still not good enough and wish you weren’t running late so that you can go back and try something else. But since you are, you leave home feeling exactly how you dressed – rushed!

Contrary to what we think, mornings are not here to make life harder for us women. I know it feels like they are also on a rush but they are not – we are. The secret to getting dressed in the morning on time is to work on these steps:

1. Fix your closet. You must be able to see everything you have all at once. If you have clothes behind other clothes, accessories inside drawers, and shoes inside boxes then you’re a champion at finding things in the morning! One way of simplifying things for you would be by placing everything where you can see it. First, I like to put all my skirts (or tops, or dresses, etc) together. Then I organized them by color. This way if I want a white blouse or a white jean I know they will be where the whites are. Then I place all my shoes in a way in which I could see them all (if I had the closet of my dreams, I’d have a wall just for them!). Then I have my belts and scarves hanging next to my necklaces. This way, I see everything I have and I can easily mix and match.  
   
2. To have more space, get rid of the clothes that you like, but don’t use. You know, the ones that we buy and then we never use, jejeje…they are the ones that usually take up our limited space and our time when we are going to choose our look…it is not worth it.   
3. Prepare your look the night before. This way you can use your morning time to fix your hair, apply your make up and add some accessories to your look.  
4. Be creative with your hair. If you’re having a bad hair day, why not make it into an elegant pony tail or simply wear a headband? Accessories help a woman appear as if she took a long time to get dressed in the morning.

Well, this is what I do… practice makes perfect. However, there are days that even having done all of this, things don’t work out L Therefor make sure that the clothes you chose the night before still fit you, because if it doesn’t…it’s over! (Advice from someone who has gone through this every now and then).

Cristiane Cardoso

If you are one of those capricious women, that love to have everything well cleaned, you get desperate when you see the grout grimy, dirty with mold, right? That is very common to find when you buy or rent a property where the previous occupant didn’t have much care…other then that, those who live in cities where there is a lot of miners dust knows what we are talking about.

The recipe is simple:

• Moisten the dirty grout generously of white vinegar.
• Let it penetrate for 20 minutes.
• Clean it with a sponge or a toothbrush that you will use just for this.
• Rinse it with lots of water.
• If the filth remains, repeat the previous steps.

To clean the walls or shower box, that end up greasy or stained due to water limestone, the recipe is a little different, but the results are the same:

• Heat a cup of white vinegar.
• Scrub the warm vinegar with a sponge throughout the glass and let it dry.
• Repeat the first two steps.
• Let it dry.
• Go through it with a clean cloth (one without lint).

Take advantage of this tip and Do it Yourself!

To raise and educate the little ones is not an easy task, and when you can’t count with the father of the kids in this task can really make things difficult.

Therefor take a look at these tips than can facilitate your life:

1) Understand that you will play the role of father and mother at the same time!

Normally the mother is more comprehensive, permissive, emocional, and the man is more linked to reasoning. In the education fo the child, the single mother has to attend to both of the tasks at the same time, educate as a mother and father.

2) Don’t stop living!

Just because you are a single mother it doesn’t mean that you no longer have a life! A woman cannot place herself at the end of the list. It is necessary to take care of ones self, she needs to have time to go to the beauty parlor, read a book, go out, meet new people, and even go watch a good movie at the movie theater.

3) Don’t be afraid of your future love life!

This is rule number 1 for you – have self-confidence in yourself. Go to social event by yourself, assume your single life with your head held high. Don’t feel less because you are not married. But above all, priories your children, this will strengthen you and you will transmit to everyone around you, the strong and secure woman that you are!

4) Judgment and criticism will exist.

Learn to ignore them! People love to talk about others. If you gained too much weight in your pregnancy, if you have just one kid or if you have more than three, if got pregnant quickly one after the other. All of that because the mother is single. Don’t worry about they say about you! A mother is a mother, their civil status doesn’t matter!

5) Organize your financial life!

Especially if you don’t count with the help of your children’s father. Make annotations and spend only what you have to spend. Financials is generally one of the issues that mainly worry a mother. Having control of the situation will save you and your children of many worries.

Mothers deserve a lot of applauses; but more than that, they deserve admiration and respect. It is something for the brave.

Be proud of yourself and make your kids feel the same! Love, dedication, comprehension and tenderness will make them admire their mother, the strong women they are!

This is why the Tamar Project is her to help you.

For more information of where and when we meet click here.

If it’s God’s will for you to start dating, then follow the right steps before dating, before kissing, before secret encounters (which is totally inappropriate for women of God):

1. Tell the guy to ask your parents for permission. If he’s too shy for that, he’s not good enough for you. If your parents don’t like him, don’t start dating him. Wait awhile and pray that God touches their hearts. Your parents’ permission is extremely important because they represent God here on earth. If it’s God’s will, then He has to touch your parents’ heart for approval too.

2. Once your parents approved, you should talk to the pastor of your church. He often knows the guy more than you do, so if he feels that you’re both not good for one another or that you’re still too weak in your faith to start a relationship, listen to him – he knows what he’s talking about. If he gives you both his blessing…

3. You can officially start dating. Now it’s time to let your friends know about it. You should both date in order to get to know one another better, not to spend time kissing and hugging (that often takes you to places you’ll regret later on). So make sure you’re always in public places, never alone or in the dark.

4. If he disrespects you by wanting your dating time to be physical, be aware of this: he’s not God’s will for you. God wouldn’t give you a man who doesn’t fear Him. Dating should be about getting to know one another, checking to see if you’re good for each other, if you’ll compliment each other perfectly. If there are fights, if there is abuse, if there is disrespect – flee!

These are crucial points that if you decide not to follow, I’m still going to be here but I’m not sure about you… I’ve counseled tons of young girls in church suffering in their love life because of their hearts… don’t just go by what I say, go by what the Word of God says: the heart is extremely deceitful!

Cristiane Cardoso

It is to everyone’s knowledge that us women are interested in anything related to beauty care.  Proof of such interest is how we madly hunt through magazines, TV programs and “how-to” videos and blogs on the Internet.  That’s how quickly the feminine universe moves.

Because of their desire to fit into established beauty norms, they go to great heights. Many spend time and money, sometimes even risking their health, and yet are not satisfied.

The number of women who undergo plastic surgery and others who would like to change something here or there increases by the day. Those who don’t do it are the ones who can’t afford such procedures.

Nothing against changes and the desire to feel good, but I’m terrified by the amount of dissatisfaction that women have and all they are willing to do because of their appearance. Is what they see in the mirror so bad?

After all, what truly makes a woman beautiful?

I would like to talk about the beauty that time cannot steal from us, that no credit card can buy, that does not come with our DNA, but is totally accessible to those who invest in things that go beyond the physical to become truly beautiful.

I suggest you read this list until the end. It shows how women of all ages can appear ugly and clumsy, no matter how much they spend on beauty care. There’s no use in looking for the trendy and fashionable in clothes and makeup, when you don’t know what’s right and wrong in your behavior and your life.

Nine “No-Nos”

Using swear words: If these words were good, they wouldn’t be bleeped out on TV.   The only people who have to swear when they speak are those who are not able to communicate or say what they mean in any better way.

Speaking and laughing loudly: Besides being indiscreet, it is disturbing to others and creates a negative impression.

Chewing gum: Seeing someone’s jaw constantly moving up and down is not pleasant. While one can understand such behavior in a child or even a teenager, it’s never an elegant look for a woman.

Bad posture: What’s the use of wearing a princess’s outfit and then slouching down when you sit and revealing an unsightly cleavage or bra straps?

Being bossy and demanding:  Women who behave like this tend to treat others as if they were nothing. Only what she thinks and wants matters, so she ends up alone and unhappy.

Not moving with time: In our fast changing world, everything is wanted in a hurry. In our parents’ time, one had a month to do something. Today, so often you are told, “It was wanted yesterday!” That’s how deadlines work. There are, however; women who don’t keep up with the times and insist on living in the past century. They are proud to say that they don’t know anything about a subject or even boast that they don’t have e-mail address. This is not good!

Being dependent on others: Those who don’t want to make decisions never know how to do things by themselves or pass responsibilities on others.

Being uninformed: There are women who don’t like to read, keep up with the news and don’t invest in their intelligence.  What they say is not worth listening to because it does not add anything to one’s knowledge.

Being weak and sensitive: Is there any use in being beautiful, but fragile as the porcelain china? A sharp word is enough for them to reduce such a woman to tears. Who can stand it?

This list showing what sabotages feminine beauty could be even longer.

Did you notice any areas in which you could be making mistakes?

Relax. If you’ve read this far, it is because you want to change. This wish, along with the right attitude and discipline is all you need to become a strong and elegant woman, incapable of doing wrong, even in the most difficult situations.   Of course, learning never ends. Keep being strong in confronting your challenges!

Nubia Siqueira

Military police for twelve years, today part of the BOPE, with 32 years of age, Rosimeire realizes how much she changed through Godllywood.

(*The above image is just illustrative)

My name is Rosimeire, I am 32 years old, I have been a military officer for eleven years. Today I work with BOPE – Batalhão de Operações Policiais Especiais, for a year.

I was always, since my teenage years, a very complex person, I considered myself ugly, very thin, and incapable to achieving anything, even a job. I always used short and tight clothes. I didn’t like posting pictures in social medias because I used to be embarrassed; I always worried with the opinions of others.

After reading Cristiane Cardoso books, I was interested in also participating of the “Godllywood Challenge”, and then I entered the “RUSH” (the period of task to enter the Godllywood private group). Oh how I learned and changed during that period! I learned how much a woman can call peoples attention without being in a mini skirt, how much it can show power, beauty and mystery being well dressed, with our hair well taken care of and our nails done. Being well dressed brings security, like Cristiane mentions in her book.

I began to control the things I would speak to my parents, I read “In the steps of Jesus” and in the Bible that we have to be vigilant with our words because they are a fountain of blessings or curses.

In the “V Woman” I will never forget the phrase: “people change when we change”, in other words, in order for my mom to change her behavior with me, I had to change my behavior first. Take a look at how many things I changed:

• I learned new things in the computer that are useful in my day to day, but due to laziness, I was never interested to learn;
• Without the RUSH, I would had not realized that I am a creative person, capable of preparing a beautiful diner table, something that I had never done before;
• I understood the importance of nourishing ourselves daily with the things of God;
• I learned to be beautiful without a tight jean or short dress;
• I learned to value myself and stop caring of other peoples judgment of me;
• I learned the importance of planning my life and to always have an objective. Not to be carried away by life;
• One thing that I wouldn’t do because I was afraid of being criticized was to evangelize in social medias. Now I show that I am not embarrassed of my faith, it is common to me today.

The RUSH came towards the end and I was managing to fulfill the tasks that involved my parents, but still with some resistance. In the last month I had the task “Surprise”. I realized that I needed to tell my parents I loved them. It was not easy I really struggled. I practiced how I would speak with my dad. One morning it happed, I spoke with him, I told him that I loved him a lot and wanted his wellbeing. We cried together it was a priceless moment in our family. It was great! I used to think that I was a useless person to this world, today, I know my value.”

Godllywood Media

Do you want to update your look but don’t know how?

Fashion doesn’t have to be complicated; it could be dynamic and fun.

Today we will talk about an essential piece for your wardrobe and that could be used by women of all ages.

The T-Shirt, is a basic and versatile piece. With it we could make a relaxed look for our many daily tasks and with a few alterations we can create a sophisticated look for the night.

It has become a current tendency.

They are charming, comfortable, romantic and modern.

For a more chic look, invest in accessories like earrings, bracelets, necklaces and purses; a blazer or a jacket can also give it a more glamorous look. The vest is also a good option, just like a pencil skirt that could be leather or flare pants that could be jeans or cloth.

They can be used with jeans and skirts. The T-Shirts can be in neutral colors, with animal prints, with animations, with fun phrases, stripes, tie-dye and various prints.

They create personality and style through your outfit.

High heels add an additional charm beyond the production, with skinny jeans or a long skirt you have a cool and modern look that can go well with tennis.

Get inspired for the weekend with a fashion tip, every Friday, in your Godllywood portal.

What did you think of the tips? Leave your comments!

Godllywood Media Team RS

Have you ever been stabbed in the back?

Did they talk bad about you or tried to get you in trouble?

Did they speak harsh things that hurt your ears?

Did you hear things from someone you never imagined you would?

Were you slandered, defamed or unjustified?

It is not easy to overcome such situations, because they leave deep marks.

What to do in such case? Cry? Fight? Get revenge? Never again trust in anyone? Become as bad as the ones that did you wrong?

Know that none of those reactions can solve your problem, because the problem is in your interior. The solution is to firstly maintain calm. No one takes a right action, reacting impulsively.

After keeping calm, you need to reflect in everything that happened. Don’t try to understand why it happened, but how you have to forget it and carry on. Many times it’s not work touching the matter or seeking a logical reason for what happened. Leave the anger and hate!

Don’t allow the feeling of anguish to take control of you or who knows even discourage you.

Abandon the following thoughts: “I am worthless”; “No one values me”; “I will never again have a true friend”; “I was born to suffer”; “My life is horrible”. Pay close attention to this horrible thought that comes but must be deleted immediately from your intellectual: “I want to die!!!”

The next step is to forgive. That is right forgive. Perhaps you are thinking: I will never forgive!

Before anything else, see if it is worth carrying that stain in your heart for the rest of your life. Do you consider yourself so inferior and unhappy that you will gift yourself a dirty heart filled of resentment and rancor?

Be aware that the life of a person with a dirty heart goes nowhere. They loose all motivation to live or work.

This is why you must forgive as soon as possible. If resentment creates a deep root, it will become very difficult to yank out afterwards.

Forget it all and live!!!

On the other hand, if you are reading this blog and you are the one that hurts others, speaks badly and has no control of your actions against someone and even like to do them wrong, take a look at all the things the victim has to do in order to continue living and be happy. Such actions also show that you are not happy with yourself… that is a topic that we will later aboard…

Team Media Godllywood

You know that indisposition that invades us every now and then? Well, they are supper normal due to the many factors of our day like being in a rush, having deadlines, and stress. But what about when you are lacking enthusiasm all the time? That has a name, laziness!

Laziness is a silent and sublet villain that presents itself disguised as lack of time. It stunts the life of the person; it paralyzes projects and stalls dreams.

Whomever laziness eludes gets nowhere.

You may ask: “Me, lazy?!”

The best way to defend ourselves from it is by knowing it, identifying it and attacking it!

Take a look at the tips to get rid of that horrible title:

Stop and think in what areas of your life it has installed itself. Ex:

• Perhaps in your drawers, because that dream of organizing it never happens. That’s why plan on once a week to look over your clothes, take to a tailor the pieces that need repair; donate the ones that no longer favor you and separate the pieces by model or color in your drawer.
• In your professional life: the curriculum that never reaches its destination, the behind project, the stack of accumulated documents…how about stopping from straying or getting distracted and face the challenge of establishing a career with success.
• In your relationship: you don’t make the effort to establish a better relationship with the ones who surround you, you don’t make the effort to optimize your sentimental life…how about setting laziness aside and start participating of the service for the Love Life?
• Perhaps it lives in your room and never lets you get out of bed on time, all because of…the laziness!

A wise men once said: “Go to the ant, you sluggard! Consider her ways and be wise, which, having no captain, overseer or ruler, provides her supplies in the summer, and gathers her food in the harvest. How long will you slumber, o sluggard? When will you rise from your sleep?” (Proverbs 6:6-9)

Lets get up right now and toss all laziness far, far away, solve everything that needs to get solved and do all that needs to get done!

Don’t wait until you have the will to do it. Whatever you have to do simply get it done.

Don’t be a prisoner of laziness.

Lets learn to be like the ants, they are always moving, they are always working and always ripening from it.

So get to work!

Media Godllywood Bahia

I prepared this list a few years ago, my intention is not to criticize women but give advice to better the actions we take in our marriage.

• Lecturing him in front of others
• Always criticizing what he does
• Interrupting him when he is speaking
• Arguing for insignificant things
• Taking away from his authority
• Not taking into consideration his opinion
• Talking about his flaws constantly
• Taking too long to get ready, making him wait for hours
• Making him go into all the stores in the mall, knowing he does not like it.
• Wanting to talk about problems when he is angry and thinking about other things
• Being super jealous and controlling
• Treating him as if he were your child and not your husband
• Being extremely sensitive and crying for everything
• Always saying no, no matter what he asks for
• When he is silent and we are constantly asking him what’s wrong.
• When we compare him to other men
• Always complaining about everything and everyone
• Using the famous excuse of a headache when he wants to be with you
• Not having the food ready on time
• Continue watching TV when he comes home and wants attention
• Always being in a bad mood
• Behaving like a little girl and not a woman
• Not being home when he comes home tired, instead you are out shopping or in the neighbors’ house gossiping, when you should be at home to greet him.
• Always wanting to have the last word
• Being negative
• Buying things behind his back, without giving him any explanation, and when he sees the bill, you lie.
• When he is home and would like some attention you are on the phone for hours with friends
• Tell third parties about your problems
• Talk too much, specially when he is watching soccer
• Preparing a dish you know he does not like

Friends, feel free to add more to this list… if you wish to be wise in your relationship I recommend you participate of the Love Therapy.

Darlings,

Today I want to start by exposing some of the first #tasksasanoffering1 of the month —  it’s beautiful to see people giving to others without expecting anything in return, right? I’m sure that those who have done this task will not want to stop, you’ll continue and more, you’ll make this a new habit in your life! It’s simply #rewarding

The #TaskasanOffering2 will add even more to this first task. 

This upcoming week (for those who want to make it a habit for the rest of your life), you will pray for people who have hurt you…

People who have treated you badly, who did not fulfill their role as a mother, father or child in your life, who spoke badly about you, who have done wrong against you, who hurt you, who used dirty tricks to harm you, who envy you, who criticize you, yelled at you, who bully you, and so on… people who have hurt you deeply.

You know, I have had several experiences like this. Sometime you look at my pictures on Instagram and think I’m all “love and smiles” lol… but it’s because I’m not going to pass on to you what will not help you, but yes, there are times when I get bad, difficult and disappointing news. There are times when I have to stop everything and pray for someone who is doing everything to get to me. And I’m well accustomed to this.  But it’s still not easy. It is not easy for you to give to people who just want to give you a slap in the face, but the Lord Jesus taught us that:

But I say to you who hear: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, and pray for those who spitefully use you.
To him who strikes you on the one cheek, offer the other also. And from him who takes away your cloak, do not withhold your tunic either.
Give to everyone who asks of you. And from him who takes away your goods do not ask them back.
And just as you want men to do to you, you also do to them likewise.
“But if you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them.
And if you do good to those who do good to you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners do the same.
And if you lend to those from whom you hope to receive back, what credit is that to you?
For even sinners lend to sinners to receive as much back.
But love your enemies, do good, and lend, hoping for nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High. For He is kind to the unthankful and evil.
Therefore be merciful, just as your Father also is merciful. Luke 6:27-36

Note that this is one of the conditions to being a child of the Most High… to be as He is, kind to the ungrateful and wicked.

Pray for your enemies, forgive those who wronged you, and never get tired of doing good to anyone, even those who apparently do not deserve it… that’s what it is to be merciful as our Father.

If you want you can share your experience with this task on your social networks without forgetting to add #taskasanoffering2 — so that we can see it too and cheer for you!

And if by any chance you just recently come on the blog and want to participate in the G-Self-help, learn how to in the links below:

What it is

What you need to do

taskasanoffering#1

How to make a friend like sister

PS. New tasksasofferings are posted every Monday here on the blog.

Cristiane Cardoso

Source: http://blogs.universal.org/cristianecardoso/en/